Hope I Don't F**k This Up! The Trailer!

Hope I Don't Fuck This Up! is a brand new funny and heartfelt podcast about single parenting. Hosted by two friends and single parents, Lili and Scott, it pulls back the veil on what it really means to raise your kids without a spouse, and it ain't always pretty! This trailer gives a taste of the ups and downs, laughter and heartbreaks of single parenting. Come for the crazy stories and stay for even more crazy stories. So subscribe, rate and review and come along on this journey with us!

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I. hello and welcome to our podcast about single parenting called Hope. I don't Fuck This Up. And I'm Lily, and I am a single parent to 17 year old twins, a boy and a girl. Very, very. They've got enviable hair. They really do. what we're hoping to do with this podcast, we're old friends. We've known each other a while, and we thought, hey, we have a single mom, a single dad. It's so interesting to see how we each have to attack being single parents. I have majority custody. of my son. And, I technically 5050 according to the law, but they live with me, full time, and they have, like, visitation weekends with with their dad. But, you know, we have a very open, relationship and are not quite so stringent about, like, what the court has ordered. And it's lucky that we can be that way. But. It's kind of how our relationship ended, too. Well, and truly, it is like this is the part of the podcast that's fun is like Scott and I telling secrets and, like, laughing at each other. And if you like that great. I'm hoping to help people from Scott because he, like every man, is trying to be the solution to every problem. And I like every woman that I know is just wanting to keep you company in your misery. So getting to talk about the thing that you did or you're worried about or you're annoyed by, I find the solution in that is just feeling like you've been heard. So that's what I keep reminding Scott of. You don't have to fix it. three things we learned The man wants a takeaway so hard. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I feel like we're. We're getting better at you. Feeling like you have to solve every problem, though. Doesn't it feel nice just to be heard? we wanted to make sure that, you know, we put this out regularly, that you hear this regularly, that this is hopefully a regular part of your your week. Right? You get to listen to this once a week as a single parent or as a honestly, any Yeah. Yeah. I give myself all of the credit for that. there. We're in co-parenting counseling right now. It's been helping a lot. But what often happens with especially single parents as well, who used to be your copilot, now becomes your judge and jury in a lot of ways. And the things that you do wrong become elevated. Sometimes because you can't, you know, it's a competition. And who's the best parent it can be? You know, now that and that's not healthy. And that's why, you know, I'm definitely working on on getting away from that. And I think we've been making a lot of progress. Yeah. You're full of. Well, I think the nice thing is, like, when you and I can talk about this, like, on opposite sides of the gender divide here without being in a relationship with each other in a way that's like, super. Like the way that friends do. Like, it's super honest. And I'm like, you're full of shit. Or you can be like, actually, what you said there seems kind of fucked up, really. And like, I don't have any of the emotional baggage that goes with of any of my other relationships or, you know, my former marriage or any of that. So it's kind of it's like refreshing to be able to talk about the stuff that way. Yeah. wait for you guys to hear some of these conversations. Not just because I had never looked at it that way before. And. And there's some things that we talk about, some of the topics that we've covered, even that you'll hear over the next couple of weeks and months. We talk about leaving your kids by themselves, something that a lot of single parents especially have to have to navigate. And you have to hope that you don't go Yeah. Fingers crossed. Oh, it's my favorite. Well, and we also have we have a great episode where we're talking about kind of taking care of yourself and making time for yourself with, like, exercise and the amount of guilt that we feel taking away from our kids because we're just one person trying to care for these people and spending that time on yourself instead, which is loaded with all kinds of baggage. Totally. Yeah. Yeah. need to be able to do it. And we actually bring in. We don't. It's not just the two of us talking every week. We sometimes bring in guests, for that, we bring in an old friend of mine, Kristen McGee, who is a, who is a wonderful, Pilates instructor, yoga instructor. And she was with Palatine for a long time. And she has she's also a single parent, and she has some really helpful ways in which we can actually look after ourselves and incorporate in our lives and do it guilt free. And I love that conversation. I thought it was really interesting. It was. And we touched on community in that one, too, which is, like, so cool because you're like, I want community. I'm like, leave me alone. I don't want any more people. I, I, you know, I think it's just fun seeing like the, the different needs of different people who are like, we're all in the same kind of, exercise together and single parenting our kids, but like, our own needs are so wildly different that that's one of the. My favorite things is hearing how different people react differently because I'm so not I'm not necessarily black and white thinker, but I think that I'm right all of the time. So just like I feel like it's just one color pick black or white. I'm just one. I'm a I'm a I'm I'm monochrome. The it's a it's a real lesson in humility, like this single parenting and just hearing that other people have different needs and that I might not be right about them. Like, I thought that part of that discussion was so interesting when, you both were like, community is wherever you find it. And I was like, you? Why? No. Stop it! No, it's. Well. And you know what that I think is hopefully going to be a big part of this podcast and all the ways that we talk to you. And my biggest dream for this would be that you talk to each other. I think that it would be the, the best, the best thing to come out of something like this is not just listening to us because we have our particular point of views and our particular conversations that hopefully will be, you know, edifying for you and uplifting and, you know, you could get some forgiveness for yourself out of hearing about our foibles. Or also, like Scott, how many times Scott's trying to solve your problems for you. And that was just a perfect example of it. And here I am thinking what we're doing here is, like, we are having those conversations in front of a camera and on microphone where we are saying the things that, like you might say with your closest friends, like behind the scenes, and everybody's saying these kinds of things behind the scenes, but in front of everybody, they've got this wall up of this, like perfect parenting and nobody's really like that. So, like pulling down that curtain a little bit and me like, actually we are all like this. Let's just like, hear it from each other, make each other feel better in the in the the similarity of choices, what we make or stressors that we have or the frustration or any of that stuff like being, being together in that kind of feeling as well. Again, here's perfect example, Scott trying to fix and me trying to just be on your side. What I was saying was, my hope would be that you find community in this. That's all that. That. Like if you follow this podcast, find us on YouTube as well. You see the video of this podcast, we have a Substack so that you can keep track, you know, from, you know, know what's happening and then we're on social all under you. Hope I don't fuck this up. Which the title is hopefully gives you all you need to know about how we feel and hope me out and about going day to day. We just we're stumbling ahead hoping we don't fuck It's so true to my first time being a parent. Even though I'm 17 years and it's my first time. I still hope I don't fuck this up every day. Well, I'll forgive you. Thank you. Negative comments count as engagement to Scott. Let them do it. not be afraid to have an opinion. We are not afraid to have opinions, so neither should you. And please talk to us. You know, reach out there, send us, send us, comments, DMs, all that kind of stuff. We just love to hear from you. Would love to ask, you know, your questions of each other, and especially when we're gonna let you know when we have guests. If you have questions for those guests, please, you know, send them to us. We are, you know, we're pretty, we love the spotlight, but we would love to shine a little bit on you guys to. Great. Oh, you want me to do that? Oh, okay. No, no, no, I think I felt I felt like that was like a nice a nice wrap up. Right. I know, luckily, you can edit this shit.